Open Letter To My Future Partner

I haven’t met you yet; but it feels like I know you. I have chosen to live my life more consciously and it’s an ever evolving journey that is both challenging and exhilarating at the same time. I am not perfect and nor am I striving to be perfect. There are aspects of me that are beautiful and magnificent, almost larger than life and there are other aspects of me that have been filled in and patched up; there are battle scars and even training wheels. I am real and I am constantly striving to be a better version of myself.

If you are willing to be equally vulnerable and real and not try to impress me with the car you drive or the millions you’ve made, I would love to dance with you. Are you willing to tell me about your greatest realisations and your greatest pain; while trusting me enough to not judge and condemn you? Will you do the same for me?

Can you share with me your dreams even if they sound incredible to most? I promise not to tell you that you’re a dreamer and that it will never happen. What I will do instead is listen, ask questions and perhaps even challenge you to take the first step. Will you do the same for me?

Are you willing to step outside the box of convention and what society deems as acceptable? Are you willing to express your deepest desires and then take action to create them? If you do, I promise to support you, be your greatest cheerleader and hold you accountable to your own dreams. I promise to want for you what you want for yourself and NOT what I want for you. Will you do the same for me? Will you challenge me on the days when I doubt myself or when I’m frustrated or just too lazy to do the work? Will you be the springboard when I’m ready for my next big step?

Are you willing to be present in your life and take responsibility for everything in it; knowing that YOU are the creator of your reality and life is not happening TO you but FOR you? Are you willing to sit with sadness or fear or failure and know that there is a message in those emotions for you and when you realise the message; are you willing to make the shifts to become stronger, wiser and more connected to a divine power that is ever present; loving, guiding and expressing through us? If you are, then I will too.

I will not make you responsible for my happiness because no one is in charge of that, but me. My happiness, my wellbeing and my personal growth is entirely in my hands; just as yours is up to you to create. I will however, provide you with the support needed to create your ultimate wellbeing. I will also give you the space when that is what you most need for your highest good. Will you do the same for me?

Are you willing to co-create a conscious relationship? I want to be free to be myself and evolve and grow and expand into the greatest being that I could possibly be in this lifetime. Can you be comfortable with that? If you can, I promise to be as well.

Can we have fun on this journey of discovery and creation? I believe that a love like this; that frees instead of restricts; that supports instead of condemns; that uplifts instead of suppresses; is possible and the time to create such a relationship has come. Will we get it right all at once? I doubt that. But what an exhilarating journey of learning, doing, reflecting, tweaking and progressing to a completely conscious relationship – as individuals and as a couple.

Am I saying that the physical world of a beautiful home filled with lovely things, beautiful clothes, dinners out, financial freedom and great holidays is not relevant? Absolutely not what I’m saying! That’s just the bonus that comes easily when we live consciously and follow the divine plan as it unfolds.

Living a conscious life may sound like a fantasy, but how will we know for sure if we don’t try? Everything we see in this world today was once just an idea in someone’s mind. It will take courage, a willingness to do the work and the capacity to live fully present. The first such relationship will serve to inspire those that witness it to make the shifts in their own relationships and one will become a few; a few will become many and when it reaches a critical mass it will become a new way of creating and living relationships.

So I invite you, my future partner, to step into the arena and dance with me.

Kas Naidoo – Life Coach living Consciously

kasturi@telkomsa.net